Last night was a particularly difficult night for me. I found myself once again crying for hours in the later hours of the evening, triggered by who knows what; some little thing that I didn't see coming, inconsequential, really, but just enough to remind me of the underlying sadness; which, at times, I can wishfully think has really left for good, but then arises and explodes like a volcano.
What is my sadness from, I pondered as my tears began to dry up and my body relaxed. What is it really? Why am I always so sad, so hopelessly and helplessly sad? Am I sad still for my lost daughter, or is it something else? Is it still okay to be sad, now, six months later? I don't really know. But as I sat and thought, and later as I reflected, I realized something. I am sad over losing my daughter. I feel the loss of what could of been deeply often. When I sit at the physical therapist's office with electrodes pulsating on my still damaged knee, I'm reminded twice weekly, of the whole horrible incident. Plenty of time to sit and think and to be reminded of all the pain. Even today I received a certified letter from Spain; what was it? A bill; for the appointment at which I was told that my daughter had died. Unjust? Cold? No, just life that goes on despite me. So yes, everything that happened still seems much more fresh and tender than I ever thought it would be at this point. That is definitely a contributing factor. But what else?
I read an old email today from a friend of mine in California; much older and wiser than me, that told me to give thanks for all the hurts and hardship in my life. Give thanks!? No! Okay, I know that the Bible says to give thanks in everything "for this is God's will in our lives." But come on! I realized today that in my sadness, in my depression, while much of it is well-founded, normal, expected, there is some depression and sadness that is there because I am choosing to stand up tall and proud before God, rather than bowed down and humble. I have felt like, when you lose a child, it is something that is not supposed to happen, so of course, God now owes me. You know, to make up for what He took away...right? I have somehow allowed myself to think that even though I know we are supposed to be content in all situations, that it does not apply to me in this situation. No one is supposed to be content that they lost a child, right? Am I supposed to be content, even if this is God's will in my life, am I supposed to be content that His will was to take away my daughter, leave me in this foreign country, away from my family who I miss immensely, cause the country I'm going to come to the brink of war, leave me with no real direction in life, and not allow me to yet become pregnant again. I am supposed to be content with that? No, obviously not (I've been saying to myself). He owes it to me to make my life better. Not in a mean way, you know, just like, God, how can you be doing this to me? Today I started to accept the fact (or at least acknowledge) the fact that this whole life and world is not about me, it's about Him. It is not to say that in acknowledging this that I relinquish my unquenched, heart-wrenching desire to have a child, that has not diminished one bit. I will still pray for a child until I hear His answer. But it has just adjusted my perspective the tiniest of bits to see that deciding that I am exempt from contentedness in Him, even in my circumstances is not right. And that while He grieves with me, and in His perfect world there would be no death or crying, and so I know that He doesn't desire to see me in pain or to have allowed Ella to die, but at the same time, I must acknowledge that I must obey him despite the sorrow. His desires for my life have not changed. His desires for me to be a godly woman, to content only in Him (even more than my child), and to allow Him to fill the very large void I feel in my soul is still there. This is a hard word for me. I know the tears will continue, but I hope they will be just out of sadness in missing my little baby girl during what would have been her first Christmas with us, and not because I am angry at God for "ruining my life." Well, back to the mundane.
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Thursday, November 29, 2007
He Really Answers Prayers
Praise God! That's really all I have to say right now. I decided to blog about this rather than sending it in an email because I think the story merits longevity.
On Sunday, I was really worn out from having guests visiting for the whole week, so I decided to stay home from church and listen to a sermon online from my home church (COD), and have my own time of prayer. I really enjoy doing this, because it hits so much closer to home than French church, even when I understand everything that they're saying. Anyway, I remember distinctly praying on Sunday, "God, we have been here for over a year now, and we have been given so many opportunities to share the gospel with people, but never any fruit that we know of. Why?" I prayed that he would use our team mightily and that He would use me and show me that He was present and working through us. I prayed this prayer earnestly, and I am very, very happy to tell you that He answered. I'm sorry if I sound surprised, but I just was surprised by His answer. I was also encouraged, in the midst of still working through the loss of our daughter and dealing often with emotions of anger and feelings of abandonment by God, that He answered so obviously, reminding me in a way so like Him, that He is here with me; He has not left, and He is using me; even though I don't understand all that He has allowed in my life. At least I know that He's still there, and He still thinks I'm worth using! Yeah!
Today, I was to give a presentation of 15-20 minutes on any topic of my choice in French. Our teacher gives us this opportunity once you are in the highest class. I really haven't ever done one before, and so a few weeks ago, I decided to sign up. I had thought that I would tell the story of Hosea and Gomer. But I as I began to work on it last week, I realized that I couldn't really talk about that for 15 minutes. So I began to think of other things. I rememberd at a story-telling conference a few weeks ago, they had told us that it is important to tell real and personal stories so that it will help people open up to your message. So, I thought about talking about Ella. But, as I thought about that, I realized that I wasn't ready yet to talk about that in public. So, of course, as the days passed, I got kind of worried. I prayed that God would show me what to do. Well, Tuesday, one day before my presentation, I still didn't know what He wanted me to do. I said to Rob, "I've been given this open platform to say anything I want, why isn't God showing me what He wants me to talk about?" I waited, and waited, and still I had nothing, come Tuesday night. Of course, I was getting desperate. Well, that day, another student had done a presentation on their country's Christmas-like holiday. So I thought, I guess I could just talk about Christmas...But that's kind of boring, I thought, and not really personal.
By Wednesday morning, you can imagine I was a bit stressed, and finally decided that God wasn't going to show me what to do, and that I was just going to talk about Christmas, because it was the easiest thing to throw together in the few free hours I had. I begrudgingly worked on the presentation, struggling through every step. "Why won't God just show me what He wants me to talk about, that would be so much better than this?!" Well, it wasn't until about midnight last night, while Margit and I were practicing all that I would say, that I started to realize, this was what He wanted me to talk about! "Somehow", based on the transitions I needed in my presentations, it had turned out that I would share also about the death of Christ on the cross at the end of my presentation. Now, I had never planned on this being a gospel presentation...but apparently Someone else had! I looked at Margit and said, "Oh! Now I know that this is what God had wanted me to talk about, because I would not have otherwise talked so blatently about the gospel, but I guess that's what He wanted!"
Anyway, Margit and Rob helped me prepare, even translating the story "The Gift of the Magi" by O. Henry, into French for me! (Read the English Version). I stayed up very late preparing everything and baking cookies for the end of the presentation. I got up early and reviewed and then went to class. I was so nervous. My stomach was aching throughout the whole first two hours of class. During the break, Margit prayed with me. We prayed that God would make the class' hearts open and soft. I prayed that God would use me to say whatever He wanted to these people, especially Corrine, our teacher, for whom I have the greatest desire to see her saved. Then it was my turn.
I stood in front of the class, and as soon as I started talking, my stomach stopped hurting. I began, "I want everyone to think of the best gift they've ever received." We talked for a minute about that and then I said, "Well, I'm going to tell you about the best gift that I ever received, but to start off, I'm going to read this Christmas story about gift-giving." I read the Gift of the Magi with a facility that I knew was not my own. I could hear my own voice pronouncing the words like I'd never done it before. I read with enthusiasm and expression so that almost every eye in the room looked at me in wonderment like little children listening to a story. At times I would wonder if they were understanding, and then when I got to the climax, I heard some gasps, "No, Really?" they murmured, following the plot of the story. I guess they were understanding!
After reading the story which has to do with sacrificial gift-giving, I said how the best gift that I ever received was like that story. The person who gave it to me, had to pay a lot in order to be able to give it. I said, "But it wasn't money that He had to give, He had to give up something very precious in order to pay for the gift." Not yet revealing the gift, I continued by saying that the story of this present had actually began centuries before I was born. I then recounted the story of Jesus' birth, from the prophecy of Isaiah to the stable in Bethlehem. I tried to tell it like a real story that had happened, and I think they were able to identify with that.
I ended with the line, "And it was in that stable that Jesus was born..." I paused and my teacher looked up and said, "But, Karen, how was that the best gift that you ever received?" I said, "That is a good question" (I was actually hoping for this question), and I said, "You see, there is one little part of the story that I haven't told you yet, and it is that 32 years after Jesus' birth, He actually died for me. Yes, He was killed to pay for my sins so that I could live with Him forever. So for me, the greatest gift that I ever received was that God came to earth and died for me to pay for my sins." I stopped there. I told them that in order to help them remember the story, I had brought them each little gifts. I handed out individually wrapped little chocolate chip cookies that I had made.
But it doesn't really end there! My teacher asked if anyone had questions, and I figured no one would really ask anything, because no one usually does, especially for a topic like this. But, actually before allowing anyone else to ask me anything, my teacher said, "And why did you decide to talk about this gift?" For a few seconds I just looked at her like she was crazy. She knows that we are Christians and that we aren't afraid to share our beliefs, and yet she is asking me such a question? She knew what I would say, why was she asking me this? I asked a clarifying question to make sure I understood her and she said, yes, you understood me right. So I thought, how else to answer except to say that the fact that Jesus died for my sins and for the sins of the world is what drives my whole life and that I think that it's very important for everyone to hear about it. I was still kind of in shock, like, "you're going to really let me just stand up here and say this in front of the whole class?" But it was not her who was "letting me", was it? I got asked questions about Chad, and if I believed God had told me to go there, and questions about how I could possibly spend 20 or more years of my life translating the Bible for these people, and why it was necessary to go to Chad.
Through the entire time of questioning that continued open and unhindered like that, I just felt like God had chosen this day for these people to sit and hear from Him; to hear from the God of the universe; what a privelege! If I've ever felt before like I was simply the body that God used to make His voice be heard among those people, it was today. What a privilege for me. I guess He did have a plan in mind all along. Do you know who God chose to speake to today: 2 Chinese girls, 1 American, 2 Russians, 1 girl from the Chech Republic, 2 Canadians, a Ukranian, a Dutch, a Spaniard, and a French teacher who is oft prayed for. Wow.
All I can say, is praise God, and thank you for praying with us today. He really does answer prayers.
On Sunday, I was really worn out from having guests visiting for the whole week, so I decided to stay home from church and listen to a sermon online from my home church (COD), and have my own time of prayer. I really enjoy doing this, because it hits so much closer to home than French church, even when I understand everything that they're saying. Anyway, I remember distinctly praying on Sunday, "God, we have been here for over a year now, and we have been given so many opportunities to share the gospel with people, but never any fruit that we know of. Why?" I prayed that he would use our team mightily and that He would use me and show me that He was present and working through us. I prayed this prayer earnestly, and I am very, very happy to tell you that He answered. I'm sorry if I sound surprised, but I just was surprised by His answer. I was also encouraged, in the midst of still working through the loss of our daughter and dealing often with emotions of anger and feelings of abandonment by God, that He answered so obviously, reminding me in a way so like Him, that He is here with me; He has not left, and He is using me; even though I don't understand all that He has allowed in my life. At least I know that He's still there, and He still thinks I'm worth using! Yeah!
Today, I was to give a presentation of 15-20 minutes on any topic of my choice in French. Our teacher gives us this opportunity once you are in the highest class. I really haven't ever done one before, and so a few weeks ago, I decided to sign up. I had thought that I would tell the story of Hosea and Gomer. But I as I began to work on it last week, I realized that I couldn't really talk about that for 15 minutes. So I began to think of other things. I rememberd at a story-telling conference a few weeks ago, they had told us that it is important to tell real and personal stories so that it will help people open up to your message. So, I thought about talking about Ella. But, as I thought about that, I realized that I wasn't ready yet to talk about that in public. So, of course, as the days passed, I got kind of worried. I prayed that God would show me what to do. Well, Tuesday, one day before my presentation, I still didn't know what He wanted me to do. I said to Rob, "I've been given this open platform to say anything I want, why isn't God showing me what He wants me to talk about?" I waited, and waited, and still I had nothing, come Tuesday night. Of course, I was getting desperate. Well, that day, another student had done a presentation on their country's Christmas-like holiday. So I thought, I guess I could just talk about Christmas...But that's kind of boring, I thought, and not really personal.
By Wednesday morning, you can imagine I was a bit stressed, and finally decided that God wasn't going to show me what to do, and that I was just going to talk about Christmas, because it was the easiest thing to throw together in the few free hours I had. I begrudgingly worked on the presentation, struggling through every step. "Why won't God just show me what He wants me to talk about, that would be so much better than this?!" Well, it wasn't until about midnight last night, while Margit and I were practicing all that I would say, that I started to realize, this was what He wanted me to talk about! "Somehow", based on the transitions I needed in my presentations, it had turned out that I would share also about the death of Christ on the cross at the end of my presentation. Now, I had never planned on this being a gospel presentation...but apparently Someone else had! I looked at Margit and said, "Oh! Now I know that this is what God had wanted me to talk about, because I would not have otherwise talked so blatently about the gospel, but I guess that's what He wanted!"
Anyway, Margit and Rob helped me prepare, even translating the story "The Gift of the Magi" by O. Henry, into French for me! (Read the English Version). I stayed up very late preparing everything and baking cookies for the end of the presentation. I got up early and reviewed and then went to class. I was so nervous. My stomach was aching throughout the whole first two hours of class. During the break, Margit prayed with me. We prayed that God would make the class' hearts open and soft. I prayed that God would use me to say whatever He wanted to these people, especially Corrine, our teacher, for whom I have the greatest desire to see her saved. Then it was my turn.
I stood in front of the class, and as soon as I started talking, my stomach stopped hurting. I began, "I want everyone to think of the best gift they've ever received." We talked for a minute about that and then I said, "Well, I'm going to tell you about the best gift that I ever received, but to start off, I'm going to read this Christmas story about gift-giving." I read the Gift of the Magi with a facility that I knew was not my own. I could hear my own voice pronouncing the words like I'd never done it before. I read with enthusiasm and expression so that almost every eye in the room looked at me in wonderment like little children listening to a story. At times I would wonder if they were understanding, and then when I got to the climax, I heard some gasps, "No, Really?" they murmured, following the plot of the story. I guess they were understanding!
After reading the story which has to do with sacrificial gift-giving, I said how the best gift that I ever received was like that story. The person who gave it to me, had to pay a lot in order to be able to give it. I said, "But it wasn't money that He had to give, He had to give up something very precious in order to pay for the gift." Not yet revealing the gift, I continued by saying that the story of this present had actually began centuries before I was born. I then recounted the story of Jesus' birth, from the prophecy of Isaiah to the stable in Bethlehem. I tried to tell it like a real story that had happened, and I think they were able to identify with that.
I ended with the line, "And it was in that stable that Jesus was born..." I paused and my teacher looked up and said, "But, Karen, how was that the best gift that you ever received?" I said, "That is a good question" (I was actually hoping for this question), and I said, "You see, there is one little part of the story that I haven't told you yet, and it is that 32 years after Jesus' birth, He actually died for me. Yes, He was killed to pay for my sins so that I could live with Him forever. So for me, the greatest gift that I ever received was that God came to earth and died for me to pay for my sins." I stopped there. I told them that in order to help them remember the story, I had brought them each little gifts. I handed out individually wrapped little chocolate chip cookies that I had made.
But it doesn't really end there! My teacher asked if anyone had questions, and I figured no one would really ask anything, because no one usually does, especially for a topic like this. But, actually before allowing anyone else to ask me anything, my teacher said, "And why did you decide to talk about this gift?" For a few seconds I just looked at her like she was crazy. She knows that we are Christians and that we aren't afraid to share our beliefs, and yet she is asking me such a question? She knew what I would say, why was she asking me this? I asked a clarifying question to make sure I understood her and she said, yes, you understood me right. So I thought, how else to answer except to say that the fact that Jesus died for my sins and for the sins of the world is what drives my whole life and that I think that it's very important for everyone to hear about it. I was still kind of in shock, like, "you're going to really let me just stand up here and say this in front of the whole class?" But it was not her who was "letting me", was it? I got asked questions about Chad, and if I believed God had told me to go there, and questions about how I could possibly spend 20 or more years of my life translating the Bible for these people, and why it was necessary to go to Chad.
Through the entire time of questioning that continued open and unhindered like that, I just felt like God had chosen this day for these people to sit and hear from Him; to hear from the God of the universe; what a privelege! If I've ever felt before like I was simply the body that God used to make His voice be heard among those people, it was today. What a privilege for me. I guess He did have a plan in mind all along. Do you know who God chose to speake to today: 2 Chinese girls, 1 American, 2 Russians, 1 girl from the Chech Republic, 2 Canadians, a Ukranian, a Dutch, a Spaniard, and a French teacher who is oft prayed for. Wow.
All I can say, is praise God, and thank you for praying with us today. He really does answer prayers.
Sunday, November 25, 2007
Our Life in Pictures
Our Friends Part Ways: The McKenzies boarded their plane to Chad on October 14th. We already miss them so much! Who could resist that smile? (Jocelyn, 2 1/2 yrs with Karen; and Annelise, 5 with Margit). After living together with Margit in her tiny apartment for 2 weeks, they may have been ready to go, but we were really sad to see them leave. As they walked into the security area, we got up on the chairs and looked through the glass, waving all the time. As they passed the metal detectors, the kids could see us anymore, so Stephen lifted each one up to wave a last goodbye. They're in Chad now, and facing a lot of difficulties, but we know the Lord has led them there at this time, and He sees everything and is taking good care of them.
After we dropped off the McKenzie's at the airport in Lyon, we decided to go an have lunch together downtown at Subway! Yes, there is a real live Subway in Lyon, very exciting! And it was even open despite being Sunday. We had a yummy lunch, and afterwards, Rob and I went to a big park there where we took a nap in the sunshine, walked around, and rented a little row boat to go out on the lake. In the midst of all our recent life changes, and then saying goodbye to our good friends and leaders, there was for a little while, memories of calmer more peaceful times, floating silently on that lake. Here's my cutie of a husband rowing our boat for us. (He's a keeper!). I like this picture because it captures Rob how I usually see him: face to face, with a smile so radiant it always brings me joy, eyes that are laughing and saying 'I love you', steering our boat through the waters, at times calm, and many times not, with God's light shining down on him, guiding him through. I love you Rob!
The Cinema Museum in Torino, Italy: We took a day trip with our school to Torino. It was very chilly, but a beautiful day. This museum was our favorite part, especially when we got on the glass elevator suspended in the middle of the museum, all the way to the top! (Below: Michiko, Japanese friend; Rob; Emma, SIL missionary to Chad; Karen; Margit). We enjoyed walking around a morning market, eating real Italian pizza and pasta, and we even managed some gelatto, even though it was nearly freezing out! 
Pumpkin Carving Party! On Halloween, we got together and reveled in the fact that Chambery decided to carry real pumpkins this year (I got mine for just 1 Euro!) Two of our classmates that came (Michiko from Japan on the left and Martin from the Netherlands, with the black t-shirt on the far right) had never before carved pumpkins and had a lot fun, especially on the part where you pull out all of the guts! As you can see, there were a lot of creative and interesting designs!
Cupcakes anyone! Yum, pumpkin spice!
Tuesday, October 09, 2007
Autumn in Chambery
Well fall is in almost full swing here in Chambery. It's actually been quite temperate here, but some days have been a little crisp. I thought I'd include a little picture journal of our last few months here. Enjoy!
September: This picture is of me, Margit and Judith in Valence. Valence is a pretty little town about two hours south west of Chambery, by car. After Judith left IFALPES, she went to work at a camp just outside of Valence run by other Dutch people. When Rob was in the states in September, Margit and I went to visit her in Valence. We're pictured here eating at a little cafe. She's back in Holland now, and I really wish she were still here. She is a great friend and really fun to be with.
October: The picture to the right is of Brian and Becky Schrader,
and their 4 month old son, Seth. Brian and Becky visited our team for a week for a sort of two-way interview. They have applied to join our team going to Chad! How Pioneers works is that, after applying to the organization, you can apply to join a specific team. They have applied to ours and now it is up to us to discern if they are a good fit with the team. Brian and Becky currently live in Illinois where Brian is a P.A. (Physician's Assistant) and Becky is a Veterinarian. Their newest addition, Seth, is pictured here, and they also have a 2 year old daughter, named Eden. They have a big heart for missions and for Chad. We had a lot of fun with them while they were here, and are really excited about the possibility of them joining our team in the near future. If they are accepted, they are planning on moving to Chambery for language school in about a year.
October: Our camera was a little fuzzy this day, but you can still see some of the beauty surrounding us on this hike. Yes! I said hike! Some of you know that I haven't been able to do a lot of physical activity in the last few months because of my knee injury in London. Weight bearing exercise (like climbing and descending) are difficult. I really wanted to be able to go on this hike, and so we found a way to drive nearly to the top of the mountain and do a fairly flat hike to the peak. With the help of my wonderful husband and 
two giant walking sticks I managed my way to the top. Don't mind the fact the Jocelyn, the McKenzie's 2-year old daughter beat me there! Anyway, in this picture (right) you see the "Dent du Chad" (Tooth of the Cat), as it is called. You can actually continue on the hike to get to that "dent" behind me, but it requires a lot more work, steep cliffs on either side of you, and at times, pulling yourself up by ropes...I didn't think I was quite up for that yet....Maybe next week! You can see some of the beautiful changing leaves from the picture on the left above; it was really beautiful. Click on the link to the left to see Stephen McKenzie's pictures of the hike, too.
September: This picture is of me, Margit and Judith in Valence. Valence is a pretty little town about two hours south west of Chambery, by car. After Judith left IFALPES, she went to work at a camp just outside of Valence run by other Dutch people. When Rob was in the states in September, Margit and I went to visit her in Valence. We're pictured here eating at a little cafe. She's back in Holland now, and I really wish she were still here. She is a great friend and really fun to be with.October: The picture to the right is of Brian and Becky Schrader,
and their 4 month old son, Seth. Brian and Becky visited our team for a week for a sort of two-way interview. They have applied to join our team going to Chad! How Pioneers works is that, after applying to the organization, you can apply to join a specific team. They have applied to ours and now it is up to us to discern if they are a good fit with the team. Brian and Becky currently live in Illinois where Brian is a P.A. (Physician's Assistant) and Becky is a Veterinarian. Their newest addition, Seth, is pictured here, and they also have a 2 year old daughter, named Eden. They have a big heart for missions and for Chad. We had a lot of fun with them while they were here, and are really excited about the possibility of them joining our team in the near future. If they are accepted, they are planning on moving to Chambery for language school in about a year.
October: Our camera was a little fuzzy this day, but you can still see some of the beauty surrounding us on this hike. Yes! I said hike! Some of you know that I haven't been able to do a lot of physical activity in the last few months because of my knee injury in London. Weight bearing exercise (like climbing and descending) are difficult. I really wanted to be able to go on this hike, and so we found a way to drive nearly to the top of the mountain and do a fairly flat hike to the peak. With the help of my wonderful husband and 
two giant walking sticks I managed my way to the top. Don't mind the fact the Jocelyn, the McKenzie's 2-year old daughter beat me there! Anyway, in this picture (right) you see the "Dent du Chad" (Tooth of the Cat), as it is called. You can actually continue on the hike to get to that "dent" behind me, but it requires a lot more work, steep cliffs on either side of you, and at times, pulling yourself up by ropes...I didn't think I was quite up for that yet....Maybe next week! You can see some of the beautiful changing leaves from the picture on the left above; it was really beautiful. Click on the link to the left to see Stephen McKenzie's pictures of the hike, too. Okay, it's a little out of focus, but the platform 
that I'm standing on, is at the top of a ramp where the people stand to go paragliding (jumping off the side of the mountain with a parachute on). At the end of that ramp is nothing, just the open air. Rob wanted me to stand closer to the edge for a better picture, but I said no way! Paragliding is really popular around here, on any clear day, you are bound to see little colored dots all throughout the sky next to all the mountains. Being at the top of this ramp confirmed my decision to never do it!
that I'm standing on, is at the top of a ramp where the people stand to go paragliding (jumping off the side of the mountain with a parachute on). At the end of that ramp is nothing, just the open air. Rob wanted me to stand closer to the edge for a better picture, but I said no way! Paragliding is really popular around here, on any clear day, you are bound to see little colored dots all throughout the sky next to all the mountains. Being at the top of this ramp confirmed my decision to never do it!Until Next Time!
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Nothing Can Separate Us
From the love of God. Over the past long, arduous three months, I have longed to feel the love of God on a minute by minute basis. Sometimes my pain is so great that I think I am uncapable of any other feeling. I have rarely in my life felt emotional pain that hurt so badly that you actually feel it in your body. The death of my "auntie Lil" when I was thirteen years old gave me my first taste of that kind of sadness. But since then it has been rare. In some of my times of sadness over the last few months, I would cry out to God to take this pain away from me, being too much for me to handle in any given moment. And I'll tell you, it scares me that we are capable of such feelings. People have asked me if God has been a comfort to me during this time. I have replied that without God, I could not have survived, and that is true. I have testified to non-believers at school that without the hope that I have in God who is in control of all and promises eternal life with Him, that I couldn't go on. But to my Christian friends, I have said that the comfort from God is still in my head, not my heart. I have still felt very jealous of those all around me who have been blessed with healthy children, or are carrying to term their healthy babies. I continue to ask God how He could allow this to happen to me and what good any of this will do. I continue to feel deep pain. Don't get me wrong, the head part of me knows that God has been by me every step of the way, guiding my path, keeping me alive, and giving me everything that I need. But sometimes it is hard to let any other feelings into the heart.
This morning I was struck by a verse I have read even in the past month, but hadn't noticed this. Try to read it like you are reading it for the first time (Romans 8:35,37-39):
"Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or danger or sword?...No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Nothing will be able to separate us. Nothing. That is what struck me. I have always read this verse as related somewhat to salvation. Once saved, always saved, right? Yeah, but I think there is more. It's talking about the love of God. When Paul talks about "death" we usually think of our own death. Death will not separate us from God if we are His children. But I thought of it in a different way this time. Even the death of my daughter, unforeseen by me, more painful than imagineable, even that, cannot separate me from receiving God's love. Even that pain which can seem to take up all the available space in my soul cannot push the love of God out. Why does Paul say that "in all these things we are more than conquerors?" It is a battle. The sin that entered the world through Adam has permeated human life and has allowed pain to exist. But through the death of Jesus on the cross, He has made it possible to overcome sin, and He has made us conquerors over the darkness. I know that He is fighting for my heart, and I know that even this death will not separate my soul from His love.
Our team leader, Stephen, sent us a blog post from John Piper last night. If you don't know John Piper, he is a pastor and author, a great man of God who's vision and writings have greatly affected this generation in godliness and missions. His son and daughter-in-law were due with a little girl this past Sunday (the 23rd). Like me, she went in for a check-up on Saturday after not feeling the baby move, and found out the same horrible news that we did three months ago. I appreciated Piper's words at the end of his post; while not profound, I found them to be poignant and somehow comforting:
"Noel and I lay in bed at about 3 AM after coming home from the delivery thinking: This seems so preventable. By God and by man. Yes. So easy. But neither man nor God prevented this. Man, because he did not know it was happening. God, because he has his wise and loving reasons that we wait to learn with tears and trust."
(to read his whole post, visit: http://www.desiringgod.org/Blog/829_felicity_margaret_piper/)
This morning I was struck by a verse I have read even in the past month, but hadn't noticed this. Try to read it like you are reading it for the first time (Romans 8:35,37-39):
"Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or danger or sword?...No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Nothing will be able to separate us. Nothing. That is what struck me. I have always read this verse as related somewhat to salvation. Once saved, always saved, right? Yeah, but I think there is more. It's talking about the love of God. When Paul talks about "death" we usually think of our own death. Death will not separate us from God if we are His children. But I thought of it in a different way this time. Even the death of my daughter, unforeseen by me, more painful than imagineable, even that, cannot separate me from receiving God's love. Even that pain which can seem to take up all the available space in my soul cannot push the love of God out. Why does Paul say that "in all these things we are more than conquerors?" It is a battle. The sin that entered the world through Adam has permeated human life and has allowed pain to exist. But through the death of Jesus on the cross, He has made it possible to overcome sin, and He has made us conquerors over the darkness. I know that He is fighting for my heart, and I know that even this death will not separate my soul from His love.
Our team leader, Stephen, sent us a blog post from John Piper last night. If you don't know John Piper, he is a pastor and author, a great man of God who's vision and writings have greatly affected this generation in godliness and missions. His son and daughter-in-law were due with a little girl this past Sunday (the 23rd). Like me, she went in for a check-up on Saturday after not feeling the baby move, and found out the same horrible news that we did three months ago. I appreciated Piper's words at the end of his post; while not profound, I found them to be poignant and somehow comforting:
"Noel and I lay in bed at about 3 AM after coming home from the delivery thinking: This seems so preventable. By God and by man. Yes. So easy. But neither man nor God prevented this. Man, because he did not know it was happening. God, because he has his wise and loving reasons that we wait to learn with tears and trust."
(to read his whole post, visit: http://www.desiringgod.org/Blog/829_felicity_margaret_piper/)
Wednesday, September 05, 2007
Trapped in a "Beautiful Alpine Village"
An adventure, yes. I just re-read my previous post and thought, wow, I guess I was in a good mood that day! There is something about culture that is ingrained into our very being, and there are those of us who have it even more tightly woven. How can I explain this? American culture as I have experienced it, excites me. Maybe it was growing up in LA, maybe it was just having a good childhood and a positive outlook on life, but in this small quiet "village" in France, I find myself longing for home. Really longing. It's not a longing that misses family and friends, although that is of course there as well. It's a longing that misses my culture. Do you know what I mean? It's a longing that misses being understood when you talk, not being thought of as uneducated becuase of your level of communication ability. It's a longing for familiarity. You know how the 10 freeway will always be backed up, regardless of if it is 3 in the morning? And you know how you know that if you have a craving for a Frappacino, there are at least 5 Starbucks within a mile of your house that would happy to provide you with one. Ever had those nights when you had a hard day and your husband or roommate is gone, and you curl up on your couch and flip on Nick at Night and watch old reruns of Full House and the Cosby Show? Have you ever gone to Pottery Barn or Crate and Barrell and just walked around for an hour pretending it was actually your house?
Yeah, well, that stuff, that's the stuff I miss. It's not something that I can explain. Are there daily traffic jams that I know about here in Chambery? Sure. Are there a million little coffee shops to get your caffine fix for the day? Of course! Do we have nearly 200 channels available on our TV because of our internet deal? Yes! Are there lots of fun stores to visit (okay, not really, but just pretend)? Sure. But it's not the same...Why not? It's a different culture. Yeah, the people are white and black and they do western sort of things, the food isn't all that weird, and manners are often similar. But it's not home. The things that are different are unplaceable. But for example, when I received a package from my mom this morning, aside from lots of other fun stuff, there were three things in there that actually made me cry. The first was a set of Turkey-shaped salt and pepper shakers (really cute, thanks mom!). Yeah, you know, the kind they start putting out in the beginning of August when Thanksgiving is still three months away? The second thing was a stuffed hedgehog (I like hedgehogs) that you squeeze and it makes little kissing noises. The third, a can of Campbell's Cream of Mushroom soup. Yes, these things actually made me shed tears! See, despite the fact that we mock the array of fall clothing and merchandise in the store windows in July, you miss it when it's gone! It's a commonality that we all share as Americans. And the hedgehog? I love that we make stupid stuffed animals that say "squeeze me" on them that fill up our shelves and make us laugh. Yes, it's consumerism at it's worst, but you know what, you'd miss it! And the soup, yeah, we can't get that here. I grew up cooking with it, I mean it doesn't get more down home than that. And that's the one that really made me lose it...My culture, mailed to me in boxes so that I can have some semblance of my old life with me here. So sad...Okay, it's not the end of the world, and yes, people do adapt, but I believe I may just be one of those people who has my culture woven into my very being and will always be longing for the familiarity of home. I'm not, like, the kind of person who you would really call "open to change," if you know what I mean, making my life here and in Chad even more of an adventure! Well, don't forget to really take in the beauty of those traffic jams on your evening commute tonight; just for me!
Yeah, well, that stuff, that's the stuff I miss. It's not something that I can explain. Are there daily traffic jams that I know about here in Chambery? Sure. Are there a million little coffee shops to get your caffine fix for the day? Of course! Do we have nearly 200 channels available on our TV because of our internet deal? Yes! Are there lots of fun stores to visit (okay, not really, but just pretend)? Sure. But it's not the same...Why not? It's a different culture. Yeah, the people are white and black and they do western sort of things, the food isn't all that weird, and manners are often similar. But it's not home. The things that are different are unplaceable. But for example, when I received a package from my mom this morning, aside from lots of other fun stuff, there were three things in there that actually made me cry. The first was a set of Turkey-shaped salt and pepper shakers (really cute, thanks mom!). Yeah, you know, the kind they start putting out in the beginning of August when Thanksgiving is still three months away? The second thing was a stuffed hedgehog (I like hedgehogs) that you squeeze and it makes little kissing noises. The third, a can of Campbell's Cream of Mushroom soup. Yes, these things actually made me shed tears! See, despite the fact that we mock the array of fall clothing and merchandise in the store windows in July, you miss it when it's gone! It's a commonality that we all share as Americans. And the hedgehog? I love that we make stupid stuffed animals that say "squeeze me" on them that fill up our shelves and make us laugh. Yes, it's consumerism at it's worst, but you know what, you'd miss it! And the soup, yeah, we can't get that here. I grew up cooking with it, I mean it doesn't get more down home than that. And that's the one that really made me lose it...My culture, mailed to me in boxes so that I can have some semblance of my old life with me here. So sad...Okay, it's not the end of the world, and yes, people do adapt, but I believe I may just be one of those people who has my culture woven into my very being and will always be longing for the familiarity of home. I'm not, like, the kind of person who you would really call "open to change," if you know what I mean, making my life here and in Chad even more of an adventure! Well, don't forget to really take in the beauty of those traffic jams on your evening commute tonight; just for me!
Thursday, August 23, 2007
Busy and Waiting
It's busy these days. Our team leaders (Stephen and Kirsten McKenzie) leave for Chad on the 14th of October. Does it seem far away? Not to us. We will be "losing" great friends our favorite little kids, and God-chosen leaders. Besides that, the large (20ft) container that is currently in Waxhaw, NC, will be closed and locked on 
October 1st, and be loaded on a ship headed for Cameroon. There it will be loaded onto a truck which will drive to N'Djamena, the capital of Chad. There, it will be put on another truck and will make the long drive from west to east accross Chad, and be met by the McKenzies in Abeche, sometime in December or January. It will contain everything that we think we will need to set up our house in Chad once we get there. Of course, we won't be there really soon, but it is easier and cheaper to ship everyone's stuff together.
October 1st, and be loaded on a ship headed for Cameroon. There it will be loaded onto a truck which will drive to N'Djamena, the capital of Chad. There, it will be put on another truck and will make the long drive from west to east accross Chad, and be met by the McKenzies in Abeche, sometime in December or January. It will contain everything that we think we will need to set up our house in Chad once we get there. Of course, we won't be there really soon, but it is easier and cheaper to ship everyone's stuff together. So my parents are busy organizing our boxes in CA to be shipped to Waxhaw in the next couple of weeks. Sound like a lot of work? It is! Over the phone, skype and email, we are meticulously going through our "Chad boxes" to make sure we have enough dental floss for 4 years, and not too many books, but enough to not get bored. Meanwhile, here in France, while California is sleeping, I am currently looking at a list like this for this afternoon:
1) Contact friend in Abeche to see if 13x9 baking dish will fit in Chadian ovens (if so, tell mom to include, if not, buy 8x8 pans, and take out any cookware from the boxes that is over 12")
2) Call DHL to arrange pick-up of 12 trunks from parents house.
3) Update Blog (decided to do this one first!)
4) Order meat-grinder, non-electric waffle iron, and toilet from Amish website
5) Order large water-filter and solar-powered refrigerator
6) Translate next chaper in "Beginning in Grace" into French
7) Call about missing medical insurance claims
What kind of job have I gotten myself into!? Well, I always told my mom and dad growing up that I didn't want to sit at a desk in an office all day for my job. (now, that's not looking so bad!). But on my good days, I sit back and think how lucky I am for such an exciting life. Sometimes it looks a little more exciting on paper, I think: move to France (ooh, la, la!), go on African safaris (look at that lion!), and live next to mud huts 
with solar power and hand-crank meat-griders. Nevertheless, it is an adventure. It's just that adventures are just that: adventerous." You don't know what to expect, it's new and different at every turn. Maybe not the way I envisioned "not sitting at a desk everyday," but a good alternative. I get to meet people from all over the world, see places that some will never see in there life, I get to do great things for God and live with passionate committed Christian colleagues. It really is a blessing. Maybe not unlike a "diamond in the rough;" a great treasure, but often times unrecognized or hidden.
with solar power and hand-crank meat-griders. Nevertheless, it is an adventure. It's just that adventures are just that: adventerous." You don't know what to expect, it's new and different at every turn. Maybe not the way I envisioned "not sitting at a desk everyday," but a good alternative. I get to meet people from all over the world, see places that some will never see in there life, I get to do great things for God and live with passionate committed Christian colleagues. It really is a blessing. Maybe not unlike a "diamond in the rough;" a great treasure, but often times unrecognized or hidden.Of course, sometimes I'm glad the days are so busy. It makes it easier to wait. Have you ever had to wait for something that you wanted more than anything in the world? For me, right now, that is to have a little baby, alive, to hold in my arms. The last time I wanted something this badly, it was to have my husband to hold in my arms. That took about five years, but he was well worth the wait! We hope we don't have to wait that long for a little brother or sister for Ella, but we will see. For now, we just wait, as patiently as possible, to see what God will do. Ella's due date is fast approaching. It's hard to believe that in 20 days would have been when our little angel may have come into the world.
Rob goes to NC the first week of September for one of his good friend's weddings, and will get to see his family as well. I'm not quite ready to be traveling yet, kind of become a home-body, but Margit and I will be going to Valence one day while he's gone to visit our friend. That will be the furthest I've ventured out of Chambery since Ella. Well, off to finish my list!
Monday, July 30, 2007
4th of July (belated)
Yeah, so it's a little past the 4th, but I wanted to put up some pictures, and these are the most recent pictures we have! We celebrated American Independence at our little apartment in Chambery as it stormed and rained outside. Kirsten actually walked in the house drenched and had to change clothes!
We ate watermelon, pasta salad, hamburgers, and, of course, 4th of July flag cake (thanks to those who have sent yummy white cake mixes and frostings!!) and brownies. We had a blast with the help of some great decorations sent by my wonderful mom (and Target, oh, how we miss you!). We got the sweet star tablecloth, the Happy 4th banner, plates and napkins, and, all importantly, THE FLAG (none of us had one)!After playing some fun games and eating cake, we ended our evening with fireworks...well, actually it was a 10-minute long video of an award-win
ning fireworks show from Malta that we found on the internet. But, hey, what are you going to do when no one around you really feels like shooting off fireworks to celebrate the big day? We did laugh, wondering if all of our future 4th of July's would be spent sitting in front of the computer screen in our huts in Chad! (yikes!) Actually, we have a lot of fun celebrating holidays here. It helps to remind us of home and it's a fun excuse to have a party and get to hang out with all of our friends. We've been so thankful for all of our friends since we've been here in Chambery. We couldn't do it without them!
ning fireworks show from Malta that we found on the internet. But, hey, what are you going to do when no one around you really feels like shooting off fireworks to celebrate the big day? We did laugh, wondering if all of our future 4th of July's would be spent sitting in front of the computer screen in our huts in Chad! (yikes!) Actually, we have a lot of fun celebrating holidays here. It helps to remind us of home and it's a fun excuse to have a party and get to hang out with all of our friends. We've been so thankful for all of our friends since we've been here in Chambery. We couldn't do it without them!
Friends (l-r): Sue, Julie, Emily and David, Margit, Kathleen, Kirsten, Rachael, Rob, Cate holding Ben, David, and me in the front.
Sunday, July 08, 2007
Motherhood
There are many in the world who have dreamt of and still dream of motherhood, I'm sure of it. I know that every single woman who has lost a baby, or suffered through years of infertility, dreams of motherhood.
What are my tears for these days? They are for the loss of my chance at motherhood. I find myself sometimes being able to think of nothing else but wanting to have a child of my own. The thoughts and dreams are all-consuming at times. I sit during class, during church, at parties, at home and calculate, and recalculate all the permutations of how we could manage to be pregnant again, and where we would have to live when, and when the baby could possibly come, and when the next one could come. Even if I've thought through every possibility thirty times, I try and calculate them again, thinking (delusionally?) that one of these times, I'll think it through in such a way that I'll come up with a better answer--that I'll come up with an answer that puts a baby in our crib in this very room from which I write, in the middle of September. But, unfortunately, so far, none of my calculations have given me that answer, except for going back in time and erasing everything that has happened.
Everyone keeps telling me, "you are a mother, you are Ella's mom." But reallistically, it really doesn't feel the same. And as I find myself watching and holding other people's children, it just hurts more. I hold them, dreaming of what would have been with Ella. I watch them crawl around on the ground, and smile for pictures. I watch them squirm when I tickle their feet, and hold them tight for a hug goodbye. But holding them will never take the place of Ella. They just remind me how lifeless she was when I held her in my arms. It just causes me to dream of my little baby girl crawling around on my rug, and drooling on my couch. And then it all comes flooding back--the reality of life at this point. That my baby is gone, and I can't see what the future holds. And once again, I see my dreams of motherhood as just that; dreams. I think back to last August and September, as we began planning for this pregnancy. It seems so, so long ago. And it saddens me to think, that somehow, we find ourselves on the brink of that same period of planning that started so long ago, and thinking how long it will be before we find ourselves holding another little baby, if we even will.
As much as I've tried to fight it, I find many of my tears now to be tears of jealousy. It's hard to even type that, becuase of course, no one wants to think that that is true. But it is. It's funny how, now, after I've lost my baby, I notice that about 60% of the women in Chambery just so happen to be pregnant right now. And that is only counting the ones I can really tell. I'm sure there are hundreds of others that are with child that I'm not even aware of. It's literally impossible to drive into town, walk into a grocery store, or even take out the trash without seeing a woman as pregnant as I was just three weeks ago. And when I see them, it just rips my heart out. I have literally had to turn away my head and not look at these women, because it just hurts so badly. In some crazy "twist of fate" there is a teacher at my school here who was only three weeks behind me in her pregnancy. I hadn't seen her since before we left for vacation. At the time, I was showing, and she was not. I had just found out we were having a girl, and she was waiting to find out. Last week, we returned to school, and I desperately hoped to not have to see her for many, many months. Only going three days each week now, I thought this might be possible. However, Thursday, I was sitting in the break room and saw her walk in. She was just about my size (before delivery). It hit me very hard. I could tell she did not want to bother me, though wanting to show her sympathy, and so she walked by with a simple, "Bonjour, Karen" and continued on. My heart was so heavy, and it was difficult to make it through the final hour of class without tears. I went home and cried for several hours. I only thank God that this didn't happened to her, because, not being a Christian, I don't know how she would make it through the grief.
In the last three weeks since delivering Ella, I have heard the announcements of four friends' new pregnancies, and two new births, and several pregnancies soon to be announced. How is it that none of this could have happened while I was pregnant. Why does it have to happen now? Maybe it's all of that, that makes my heart just grow and grow in yearning to be a mother. I don't know.
Sometimes now, my pain is quieter. Sure, the tears come...often, just ask Rob. But I find now that the pain is deeper inside, that tears can't express. I can't really explain it. It's like before, the pain, hurt, and grief were in a different place, somewhere more on the exterior. The crying actually helped a little, and the things about which I was crying were tangible, current things. Now, though, I find that when the tears come, they well up from somewhere really deep inside me, I don't know from where. The pain is really deep down, like I can't reach it. I find that the sadness starts and permeates my heart and my soul for hours before ever reaching my head and my tears. And even then, the tears are quiet, inward tears; the kind that aren't meant to be heard and make you want to be alone. It's a scarier sadness, actually. It's a kind that feels like it won't ever go away. It feels like it has become a part of your heart. And maybe it has. And maybe it is the kind that won't go away...just like Ella will never come back. But I've been reading this book about loss and grief, and the author talks about how extreme loss does become a part of our lives, but it doesn't mean the end of our lives. I guess it's kind of like when a person has a really bad injury, and they are left with scars. It doesn't mean that the injury is still there, but their body has been permantly changed forever. It won't go back to being the same, but will learn to live in this new different state.
I can't remember if I've written about it before, but during our vacation, before Spain, when we were in London, I fell down four stairs and onto the cement ground. (I didn't fall on my belly and everyone assures me it had nothing to do with her death.) I fell onto my left knee and my right elbow. Though nothing was broken, I still found myself at a second dr.'s visit yesterday to check-up on my knee that is still somewhat unbendable and has no feeling in a 2x2 inch area. In addition to that, both my knee and my elbow still have noticeable scars on them. Although I've been treating them daily with vitamin E, I am starting to realize that they are probably here to stay. And a part of me is kind of glad for these outward scars. To me they are a constant reminder of Ella (whether because I got them while carrying her, or because they came just a week before her death). I think for the rest of my life, I will have visible reminders of the internal scars that I've incurred because of this little baby girl. Not everyone is that lucky. When my future children (Lord willing) ask, "mommy, how did you get that scar?" I can tell them about their sister who went home really early to be with Jesus.
"I won't forget you little girl, I love you. I always will."
What are my tears for these days? They are for the loss of my chance at motherhood. I find myself sometimes being able to think of nothing else but wanting to have a child of my own. The thoughts and dreams are all-consuming at times. I sit during class, during church, at parties, at home and calculate, and recalculate all the permutations of how we could manage to be pregnant again, and where we would have to live when, and when the baby could possibly come, and when the next one could come. Even if I've thought through every possibility thirty times, I try and calculate them again, thinking (delusionally?) that one of these times, I'll think it through in such a way that I'll come up with a better answer--that I'll come up with an answer that puts a baby in our crib in this very room from which I write, in the middle of September. But, unfortunately, so far, none of my calculations have given me that answer, except for going back in time and erasing everything that has happened.
Everyone keeps telling me, "you are a mother, you are Ella's mom." But reallistically, it really doesn't feel the same. And as I find myself watching and holding other people's children, it just hurts more. I hold them, dreaming of what would have been with Ella. I watch them crawl around on the ground, and smile for pictures. I watch them squirm when I tickle their feet, and hold them tight for a hug goodbye. But holding them will never take the place of Ella. They just remind me how lifeless she was when I held her in my arms. It just causes me to dream of my little baby girl crawling around on my rug, and drooling on my couch. And then it all comes flooding back--the reality of life at this point. That my baby is gone, and I can't see what the future holds. And once again, I see my dreams of motherhood as just that; dreams. I think back to last August and September, as we began planning for this pregnancy. It seems so, so long ago. And it saddens me to think, that somehow, we find ourselves on the brink of that same period of planning that started so long ago, and thinking how long it will be before we find ourselves holding another little baby, if we even will.
As much as I've tried to fight it, I find many of my tears now to be tears of jealousy. It's hard to even type that, becuase of course, no one wants to think that that is true. But it is. It's funny how, now, after I've lost my baby, I notice that about 60% of the women in Chambery just so happen to be pregnant right now. And that is only counting the ones I can really tell. I'm sure there are hundreds of others that are with child that I'm not even aware of. It's literally impossible to drive into town, walk into a grocery store, or even take out the trash without seeing a woman as pregnant as I was just three weeks ago. And when I see them, it just rips my heart out. I have literally had to turn away my head and not look at these women, because it just hurts so badly. In some crazy "twist of fate" there is a teacher at my school here who was only three weeks behind me in her pregnancy. I hadn't seen her since before we left for vacation. At the time, I was showing, and she was not. I had just found out we were having a girl, and she was waiting to find out. Last week, we returned to school, and I desperately hoped to not have to see her for many, many months. Only going three days each week now, I thought this might be possible. However, Thursday, I was sitting in the break room and saw her walk in. She was just about my size (before delivery). It hit me very hard. I could tell she did not want to bother me, though wanting to show her sympathy, and so she walked by with a simple, "Bonjour, Karen" and continued on. My heart was so heavy, and it was difficult to make it through the final hour of class without tears. I went home and cried for several hours. I only thank God that this didn't happened to her, because, not being a Christian, I don't know how she would make it through the grief.
In the last three weeks since delivering Ella, I have heard the announcements of four friends' new pregnancies, and two new births, and several pregnancies soon to be announced. How is it that none of this could have happened while I was pregnant. Why does it have to happen now? Maybe it's all of that, that makes my heart just grow and grow in yearning to be a mother. I don't know.
Sometimes now, my pain is quieter. Sure, the tears come...often, just ask Rob. But I find now that the pain is deeper inside, that tears can't express. I can't really explain it. It's like before, the pain, hurt, and grief were in a different place, somewhere more on the exterior. The crying actually helped a little, and the things about which I was crying were tangible, current things. Now, though, I find that when the tears come, they well up from somewhere really deep inside me, I don't know from where. The pain is really deep down, like I can't reach it. I find that the sadness starts and permeates my heart and my soul for hours before ever reaching my head and my tears. And even then, the tears are quiet, inward tears; the kind that aren't meant to be heard and make you want to be alone. It's a scarier sadness, actually. It's a kind that feels like it won't ever go away. It feels like it has become a part of your heart. And maybe it has. And maybe it is the kind that won't go away...just like Ella will never come back. But I've been reading this book about loss and grief, and the author talks about how extreme loss does become a part of our lives, but it doesn't mean the end of our lives. I guess it's kind of like when a person has a really bad injury, and they are left with scars. It doesn't mean that the injury is still there, but their body has been permantly changed forever. It won't go back to being the same, but will learn to live in this new different state.
I can't remember if I've written about it before, but during our vacation, before Spain, when we were in London, I fell down four stairs and onto the cement ground. (I didn't fall on my belly and everyone assures me it had nothing to do with her death.) I fell onto my left knee and my right elbow. Though nothing was broken, I still found myself at a second dr.'s visit yesterday to check-up on my knee that is still somewhat unbendable and has no feeling in a 2x2 inch area. In addition to that, both my knee and my elbow still have noticeable scars on them. Although I've been treating them daily with vitamin E, I am starting to realize that they are probably here to stay. And a part of me is kind of glad for these outward scars. To me they are a constant reminder of Ella (whether because I got them while carrying her, or because they came just a week before her death). I think for the rest of my life, I will have visible reminders of the internal scars that I've incurred because of this little baby girl. Not everyone is that lucky. When my future children (Lord willing) ask, "mommy, how did you get that scar?" I can tell them about their sister who went home really early to be with Jesus.
"I won't forget you little girl, I love you. I always will."
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
In Memory of Ella Joy Kimmons
Ella Joy Kimmons was born at 4:38pm on June 18th, 2007
Little Ella inside mommy 3 weeks ago
Ella weighed 2 pounds, and was 13 ½ inches long. Jesus had already taken our little girl home by the time we were able to meet her, but we enjoyed the 7 months that we did have with her before seeing her beautiful little face.
Ella had a full head of dark hair, a round face with a cute tiny nose and rosebud lips. Her eyes were closed peacefully, and we could see her long eyelashes peeking out from underneath. Everything about her was perfectly formed, knitted together inside me by our wonderfully skilled Maker. She was perfection in miniature form. She had long slender fingers like her daddy, and little feet that were exact replicas of her mom. She had little fingernails, elbows and knees, and tiny little bones that made up her arms and legs and little chest. What must her spirit be like, to have also been endowed with such a beautiful body? Jesus made her just for Himself, and I was privileged to carry her.
Jesus, please take care of Ella Joy until we join her in heaven, and tell her how much we love her!
Thoughts on Ella
My sweet baby Ella was born 8 days ago. Sometimes I sit back and imagine that my little 8 day old baby is just sleeping in the other room. I want to be just like the other moms, who, when they start to miss their little baby, can peek their head into her room and watch her chest rise up and down. And if the baby happens to wake up while you’re watching, and starts to give those little cries, I want to really hear those little cries. I want to be able to come to her crib and scoop her up, wrapped in blankets and hold her close to me and rock her. I want her to know that with me, everything will be okay. I felt so helpless that day in the hospital, when I held her close to me, all wrapped up in blankets. I moved the too big bonnet away from her eyes, and rolled up her sleeves so that her hands would be free. I wrapped the blankets more tightly around her, but none of those things could bring her back. None of those actions could tell my little Ella that everything was going to be okay. It was too late. There was nothing I could do to save her.
On most days, I find myself inventing 20 new things that I could have done differently to protect my little one. I find myself constantly asking, “what if…” What if I had prayed for her more, what if I had read my Bible more, what if I had gotten mad less often, what if I had walked less, what if I had walked more, what if I had eaten better, what if I hadn’t gone on vacation, what if I hadn’t fallen in London, what if I hadn’t gotten so hot in Spain, what if I could have listened to her heart that day, what if I would have just known something was going to happen and done something! But then I realize, I am asking, “what if I was God?” God raised Jesus from the dead, God created Ella from nothing inside me, if He wanted her to be in my arms right now, He is perfectly capable of making that happen. Nothing that I did or didn’t do negated His ability to save her from death. I guess I have learned a lesson about parenting earlier than most. I have learned that although I am the mommy of Ella, I was the caretaker of Ella, I am the one who loves Ella, but I am not the savior of Ella (neither physically or spiritually speaking). God created each one of us, including our daughter Ella, for His glory and His joy. He has ordained our days before we were ever born (Ps. 139), and as a parent, as much as I strive to give the best to my daughter, and protect her from all harm and evil, whether 7 months in the womb, or 7 years on the earth, God is truly her provider and protector.
Rob and I were singing some songs the other night, and we came across a familiar one by Matt Redman:
Blessed Be Your Name
In the land that is plentiful
Where Your streams of abundance flow
Blessed be Your name
Blessed Be Your name
When I'm found in the desert place
Though I walk through the wilderness
Blessed Be Your name
Every blessing You pour out
I'll turn back to praise
When the darkness closes in, Lord
Still I will say
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your glorious name
Blessed be Your name
When the sun's shining down on me
When the world's 'all as it should be'
Blessed be Your name
Blessed be Your name
On the road marked with suffering
Though there's pain in the offering
Blessed be Your name
Every blessing You pour out
I'll turn back to praise
When the darkness closes in, Lord
Still I will say
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your glorious name
You give and take away
You give and take away
My heart will choose to say
Lord, blessed be Your name
I remember thinking about this song when I was standing on our balcony in Spain, waiting to hear from my midwife what we should do because Ella hadn’t been kicking. The last lines of this song, echoed from Job, ran through my head, “You give and take away; But my heart will choose to say, Lord, blessed be Your name.” I thought to myself, as I wrestled with building fear in my heart, “No, I don’t want to hear those words, those are the words that people say when they’ve lost something! I haven’t lost anything yet. I don’t want to say those words!” And I remember hearing God tell me, “Karen, trust me.” Okay, I’ll trust you, God. But soon I realized that trusting Him didn’t mean that Ella would be alive when I went to the hospital that night.
Then when we sang this song the other night, one of the verses stuck out to me,
“On the road marked with suffering; Though there's pain in the offering; Blessed be Your name.” I never thought about it before because I’ve never really given a painful offering. But when I sang the words this time, I realized the blessing of God’s name during suffering is painful, but even more painful, is the offering itself. For the first time, I saw that my little Ella, was an offering to God. It made Abraham’s offering of Isaac come alive to me. God demanded from us our first fruits, and so Ella was an offering to God. There is pain in this offering, but God’s name will be praised. Oh, the pain is so great! My heart only takes comfort in knowing that God chose us to offer a pleasing gift to Him. Her life is of great worth to Him. Bless our God for us little Ella!
On most days, I find myself inventing 20 new things that I could have done differently to protect my little one. I find myself constantly asking, “what if…” What if I had prayed for her more, what if I had read my Bible more, what if I had gotten mad less often, what if I had walked less, what if I had walked more, what if I had eaten better, what if I hadn’t gone on vacation, what if I hadn’t fallen in London, what if I hadn’t gotten so hot in Spain, what if I could have listened to her heart that day, what if I would have just known something was going to happen and done something! But then I realize, I am asking, “what if I was God?” God raised Jesus from the dead, God created Ella from nothing inside me, if He wanted her to be in my arms right now, He is perfectly capable of making that happen. Nothing that I did or didn’t do negated His ability to save her from death. I guess I have learned a lesson about parenting earlier than most. I have learned that although I am the mommy of Ella, I was the caretaker of Ella, I am the one who loves Ella, but I am not the savior of Ella (neither physically or spiritually speaking). God created each one of us, including our daughter Ella, for His glory and His joy. He has ordained our days before we were ever born (Ps. 139), and as a parent, as much as I strive to give the best to my daughter, and protect her from all harm and evil, whether 7 months in the womb, or 7 years on the earth, God is truly her provider and protector.
Rob and I were singing some songs the other night, and we came across a familiar one by Matt Redman:
Blessed Be Your Name
In the land that is plentiful
Where Your streams of abundance flow
Blessed be Your name
Blessed Be Your name
When I'm found in the desert place
Though I walk through the wilderness
Blessed Be Your name
Every blessing You pour out
I'll turn back to praise
When the darkness closes in, Lord
Still I will say
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your glorious name
Blessed be Your name
When the sun's shining down on me
When the world's 'all as it should be'
Blessed be Your name
Blessed be Your name
On the road marked with suffering
Though there's pain in the offering
Blessed be Your name
Every blessing You pour out
I'll turn back to praise
When the darkness closes in, Lord
Still I will say
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your glorious name
You give and take away
You give and take away
My heart will choose to say
Lord, blessed be Your name
I remember thinking about this song when I was standing on our balcony in Spain, waiting to hear from my midwife what we should do because Ella hadn’t been kicking. The last lines of this song, echoed from Job, ran through my head, “You give and take away; But my heart will choose to say, Lord, blessed be Your name.” I thought to myself, as I wrestled with building fear in my heart, “No, I don’t want to hear those words, those are the words that people say when they’ve lost something! I haven’t lost anything yet. I don’t want to say those words!” And I remember hearing God tell me, “Karen, trust me.” Okay, I’ll trust you, God. But soon I realized that trusting Him didn’t mean that Ella would be alive when I went to the hospital that night.
Then when we sang this song the other night, one of the verses stuck out to me,
“On the road marked with suffering; Though there's pain in the offering; Blessed be Your name.” I never thought about it before because I’ve never really given a painful offering. But when I sang the words this time, I realized the blessing of God’s name during suffering is painful, but even more painful, is the offering itself. For the first time, I saw that my little Ella, was an offering to God. It made Abraham’s offering of Isaac come alive to me. God demanded from us our first fruits, and so Ella was an offering to God. There is pain in this offering, but God’s name will be praised. Oh, the pain is so great! My heart only takes comfort in knowing that God chose us to offer a pleasing gift to Him. Her life is of great worth to Him. Bless our God for us little Ella!
Saturday, March 03, 2007
A New Team Member!
Well, we have a new team member planning on joining our team (and our family) in September...
Surprise!! Yes, this new team member is not yet born, but is due mid-September of this year! Rob and I are expecting this little baby that you see above and are overjoyed! I am three months along, and beginning to show just a tiny bit (at least my pants don't fit too well now). These sonogram pictures (called "echographies" in French), were taken last week, on March 1st. We were able to see many different angles and parts of the baby, but these were the cutest and most baby-like ones of all. We even, after it decided to turn over and face us, were blessed to see it jumping all around, open and close it's mouth, suck it's thumb, and even wave at us (really!). The doctor said that according to what she saw, the baby appears to be healthy and growing strong.
We are so thankful to God for giving us this little gift and are anticipating eagerly the day that we get to meet him or her in person. We are also thankful for a few other things, like our doctor. We somewhat randomly (though on a recommendation) chose this doctor, Dr. Charra. So far, we have been so pleased with her. She is very laid back and personable. She spends as much time as we need with us, and being certified in sonogram reading, she does them right in her office, which is very convenient, and nice to have the doctor telling you what she sees. She is very patient with us when we don't understand the French terms or way of doing things, and is helping us set up everything from payments to length of stay, etc., at the hospital here in Chambery, where, Lord willing, we plan to deliver several months down the road.
My morning sickness has not been bad at all. There were a few rough days, but for the most part, I have been very lucky. I have been taking naps every day for three months, though, so that has been interesting. And my cravings are always in abundance! Of course, though, they are always for things that you can't buy in France! I have been lucky though, to have people mail me or bring me things from the states. And the Lord has also joined in satisfying my food cravings. One day, after craving jelly donuts for several days, and even dreaming about them, we were in a grocery store here, and found JELLY DONUTS! They don't even have donuts in France, but for some reason, there they were! After Jelly donuts, I was craving cake donuts (the kind with the white frosting and sprinkles), well, this weekend, on our anniversary trip, we were in a Starbucks, and guess what they had...cake donuts, with white frosting and little sprinkles! Wow! We couldn't believe it. Don't worry, though, I have had healthier craving, like mandarin oranges, applesauce, beef, pomelos, and strawberries. And luckily, you can find most of those here!
So there you have it! Thanks for sharing in our excitement, and praying for our new little one to be healthy and safe while God continues creating him or her. We'll keep you updated!
Tuesday, February 20, 2007
It May Have Hit 60!
Yes, you heard it right! It may have actually hit 60 degrees Farenheit today! On the way home from school, we were admiring the sunny skies, and actually stopped (yes, it was warm enough to stop moving on the way home!), and peered over the bridge to look at the rushing river below us that we cross over each day on our way home. It was very beautiful. The water was so clear that you could see the rocks on the bottom. And while we stood there, we saw a beautiful little bird with a bright yellow belly and black/grey wings swoop over the water, land on a rock and being bathing. It reminded me of spring.
By the time we got home, and made lunch (tuna sandwich for Rob, faux hot dog sandwich and mandarin oranges for Karen), we decided to try sitting on our balcony. So we pulled out some folding chairs, put them in the sun, and indulged in the warmth! We really thing it may have been nearly 80 degrees in the direct sunlight, with a nice cool breeze. Ah! So nice! Please note, the beautiful blue skies!
Us on the balcony today, in short sleeves!
Sunday, February 18, 2007
Cruisin!
Well, we're gonna be cruising the streets of Chambery soon, in our very own CAR! Yes, folks, we finally decided that it would be worth the time and money to buy a car for the remainder of our time in France. The number of times that we've trudged through the rain and snow to and from school, lugged whatever groceries we could hold in our arms and on our backs, fallen over on the bus after a sudden start, missed church because no busses run on Sundays, or paid way too much money for the ridiculously priced train tickets to other cities, we decided that it would be worth it.
Rob diligently began searching in the paper for a used car in our price range. The first day, we went and saw a 1995 Peugot 306 in midnight blue. It wasn't bad. It had 240,000 km on it, had only had two previous owners, the only major cosmetic problem was some stains on the seats, worn paint and the side-view mirror which was taped on with duct tape, but it was a solid car. The lady was very nice and even said we should come over to dinner some time, and practice French with her (even if we didn't buy the car). We were tempted to buy it just because she was so nice, but we were determined to not buy the first thing that we saw.
By the evening, we hadn't been able to see any other cars. Until at 6:30 I saw an ad that we hadn't called yet, for a car 2 years newer and 200 euros cheaper! We went for a rendez-vous at 7:30pm to see this lovely 1997 Ford Escort Sport. It had no major mechanical problems, it was very well kept, had only 90,000 km on it, and came with a set of snow tires, and a brand new set of summer tires! We took it for a test drive and it ran like a champ! By 8:00pm we had made an offer, and now, we own this wonderful car! The improvements in the conditions of the car mean that we can hopefully sell it for close to what we bought it for when we leave next January!
Karen next to the new beaut!
Sweet side shot
Yes, we now have a European licsence plate!
Rob diligently began searching in the paper for a used car in our price range. The first day, we went and saw a 1995 Peugot 306 in midnight blue. It wasn't bad. It had 240,000 km on it, had only had two previous owners, the only major cosmetic problem was some stains on the seats, worn paint and the side-view mirror which was taped on with duct tape, but it was a solid car. The lady was very nice and even said we should come over to dinner some time, and practice French with her (even if we didn't buy the car). We were tempted to buy it just because she was so nice, but we were determined to not buy the first thing that we saw.
By the evening, we hadn't been able to see any other cars. Until at 6:30 I saw an ad that we hadn't called yet, for a car 2 years newer and 200 euros cheaper! We went for a rendez-vous at 7:30pm to see this lovely 1997 Ford Escort Sport. It had no major mechanical problems, it was very well kept, had only 90,000 km on it, and came with a set of snow tires, and a brand new set of summer tires! We took it for a test drive and it ran like a champ! By 8:00pm we had made an offer, and now, we own this wonderful car! The improvements in the conditions of the car mean that we can hopefully sell it for close to what we bought it for when we leave next January!
Karen next to the new beaut!
Sweet side shot
Yes, we now have a European licsence plate!
Sunday, January 28, 2007
Things I Miss From America
So I've been missing home a lot recently. Why? I don't really know, but maybe because I've been sick for two weeks now, literally on the couch sleeping eight hours each day. It's not fun. So I guess I've been thinking about all the comforts of home, things that you wish you had to make you feel better when you're sick, that just aren't available here, or aren't available in the form you're used to. Here is a list of things that I've come up with that may be surprising that we can't find here:
- Kraft Macaroni and Cheese (with sliced hot dogs added!)
- Hot Dogs
- Dole Canned Mandarin Oranges
- Tylenol
- Muffin Mixes
- Cake Mixes
- Frozen biscuits
- Mint Chocolate Chip Ice Cream from Baskin Robbins
- Cilantro
- Old movies in English (Blockbuster!)
- The Today Show
- Yummy, Non-Expensive Restaurants with Greasy Food (Chili's, Chevy's, Red Robbins, El Torito, El Pollo Loco, Subway, Blimpies, BJ's, Chipotle, etc.)
- In-N-Out
- Frozen Chicken
- Hot-N-Spicy Cheez-It's
- Wheat Thins
- Chicken Noodle Soup
- Cheddar Cheese
- SUN and WARMTH!!!
- the Beach
- Having a Car and not having to walk 30 minutes in 10 degree weather to get to your doctor's appointment
- Having a Car and not having to get back on your bike in 10 degree weather on your way home from your Friday night date
- Pepperoni
- Canned Frosting
- Hot Pockets
- Russett Potatoes
- Pretzels
- Ranch Dressing
- Having a choice of a million different cereals
- Instant Oatmeal
- Familiar English Radio Stations
- Palm Trees
- Did I say SUN?
- Barnes and Noble
- TARGET!
- J.Crew
- Church in English
- Zatarran's Jambalaya and Cheese Rice Mix (mmm!)
- Gatorade
- Saltine Crackers
- Malls
- Freeways
- Friends
- Real Peanut Butter (not the sticky French kind)
- College Ruled Lined Notebooks
- Mom's Home Cooking
- Chocolate Chips (except mom brought me a 6lb. bag at Christmas!)
- Reality Television
- Bagels and Cream Cheese
- Trail Mix
- Mom, Dad, Kevin and Abby (our cute little English Cocker)
- Cellphones
- Superbowl, Basketball, other American sports on TV
- English
- Home!
- Kraft Macaroni and Cheese (with sliced hot dogs added!)
- Hot Dogs
- Dole Canned Mandarin Oranges
- Tylenol
- Muffin Mixes
- Cake Mixes
- Frozen biscuits
- Mint Chocolate Chip Ice Cream from Baskin Robbins
- Cilantro
- Old movies in English (Blockbuster!)
- The Today Show
- Yummy, Non-Expensive Restaurants with Greasy Food (Chili's, Chevy's, Red Robbins, El Torito, El Pollo Loco, Subway, Blimpies, BJ's, Chipotle, etc.)
- In-N-Out
- Frozen Chicken
- Hot-N-Spicy Cheez-It's
- Wheat Thins
- Chicken Noodle Soup
- Cheddar Cheese
- SUN and WARMTH!!!
- the Beach
- Having a Car and not having to walk 30 minutes in 10 degree weather to get to your doctor's appointment
- Having a Car and not having to get back on your bike in 10 degree weather on your way home from your Friday night date
- Pepperoni
- Canned Frosting
- Hot Pockets
- Russett Potatoes
- Pretzels
- Ranch Dressing
- Having a choice of a million different cereals
- Instant Oatmeal
- Familiar English Radio Stations
- Palm Trees
- Did I say SUN?
- Barnes and Noble
- TARGET!
- J.Crew
- Church in English
- Zatarran's Jambalaya and Cheese Rice Mix (mmm!)
- Gatorade
- Saltine Crackers
- Malls
- Freeways
- Friends
- Real Peanut Butter (not the sticky French kind)
- College Ruled Lined Notebooks
- Mom's Home Cooking
- Chocolate Chips (except mom brought me a 6lb. bag at Christmas!)
- Reality Television
- Bagels and Cream Cheese
- Trail Mix
- Mom, Dad, Kevin and Abby (our cute little English Cocker)
- Cellphones
- Superbowl, Basketball, other American sports on TV
- English
- Home!
Wednesday, January 17, 2007
Reasons You Wished You Live in France
So, here in France, they have this thing called "The Pause." The pause is a not very short lunch break. At around 12 noon until about 2pm (although it can fluctuate depending on the store or office) everyone goes home to have lunch. What else people do at this time, I have no idea. I mean, I like to sit for a long time over a nice sandwich, but 2 hours!
But today when we were walking home from school, we decided to stop and pick up a baguette for lunch. We stopped in at a Boulangerie (pronounced: "Boolangairee") and bought two small baguettes famous for their crunchy, bites-you-back outside, and their soft, I-want-to-get-inside-the-baguette inside. On the way back we passed 5 friends, all heading to some sort of lunch engagement with friends. A nice way to spend the middle two hours of your day in sunny Chambery today. As we walked up to our apartment, I realized that the parking lot was full, and there was a mass retreat into the buildings, all the people having left behind their stressful work days to take a nice lunch with their loved ones, or simply read the paper and take a nap.
The pause hours here are sacred. You don't call someone during the pause. You wouldn't dare bother them. And don't try getting anything done during the pause, since all the stores and offices will be closed, except for a few boulangeries who have the ominous task of feeding all the hungry people. It's kind of like forced rest. Seriously, even if you wanted to be productive during this time, it would be pretty difficult! So do as the French!!
Oh, and don't forget about the "Goutee". That little practice happens around 5 o'clock (work ends around 6). The goutee is a short break in which people eat a snack, which should consist of something chocolate. This could include a chocolate truffle or candy, but more commonly consists of croissants with little bits of chocolate in it (called pain au chocolat), buttery wafers with chocolate chips, or a piece of toast with "Nutella" spread on it. You may have seen Nutella in the states. It's the European peanut butter, but instead of peanuts, it is a chocolate-hazelnut spread. Mmmmm! Don't you wish you lived in France?
But today when we were walking home from school, we decided to stop and pick up a baguette for lunch. We stopped in at a Boulangerie (pronounced: "Boolangairee") and bought two small baguettes famous for their crunchy, bites-you-back outside, and their soft, I-want-to-get-inside-the-baguette inside. On the way back we passed 5 friends, all heading to some sort of lunch engagement with friends. A nice way to spend the middle two hours of your day in sunny Chambery today. As we walked up to our apartment, I realized that the parking lot was full, and there was a mass retreat into the buildings, all the people having left behind their stressful work days to take a nice lunch with their loved ones, or simply read the paper and take a nap.
The pause hours here are sacred. You don't call someone during the pause. You wouldn't dare bother them. And don't try getting anything done during the pause, since all the stores and offices will be closed, except for a few boulangeries who have the ominous task of feeding all the hungry people. It's kind of like forced rest. Seriously, even if you wanted to be productive during this time, it would be pretty difficult! So do as the French!!
Oh, and don't forget about the "Goutee". That little practice happens around 5 o'clock (work ends around 6). The goutee is a short break in which people eat a snack, which should consist of something chocolate. This could include a chocolate truffle or candy, but more commonly consists of croissants with little bits of chocolate in it (called pain au chocolat), buttery wafers with chocolate chips, or a piece of toast with "Nutella" spread on it. You may have seen Nutella in the states. It's the European peanut butter, but instead of peanuts, it is a chocolate-hazelnut spread. Mmmmm! Don't you wish you lived in France?
Thursday, January 11, 2007
The Beginning of Karen's Blogging
Well, I've never really blogged before, but all my friends were doing it, so I thought I'd join in! I'll just go ahead and start from this week. I'll consider it my New Year's resolution!
This week we started our 3 school session. The sessions here go by months. At the beginning of each month, you take a placement test and get placed in the appropriate level. Well, somehow, I was placed in the first level in November, the third level in December, and level six this month. I questioned the jump the first time, and this time I laughed at it. Don't misread, it's not because I've learned so much French and am excelling so far! Anyway, I tried three days of classes and decided this type of challenge (imagine taking French 4 when you only know how to say "Bonjour") is not my learning style. So tomorrow, I will move two levels down and see how that works out for me.
Last weekend, Rob and I took a fun trip to Lyon. It is the second largest city in France (second to Paris, of course), and is only about an hour and a half away from us by train. Rob and I left early in the morning to catch the train, and arrived in Lyon around 10:30am. We visited a beautiful Basilica that was at the highest point in Lyon. It had a panoramic view of the city and beautiful carvings and stained glass windows (sorry, we left our camera at home, so no pics!). We then ate our lunch that we brought from home, by the Rhone river. We walked through a Saturday market and bought some beignets (French donuts, which, contrary to popular belief, are actually not very prevalent at all around here!). Then, the sun came out and warmed us up so much that we even took off our jackets and gloves. We found a little outdoor ice skating rink, and had fun sliding all over the ice. It was nice to not have to think about school or work, or moving or anything for a little while (we even turned off our cell phone the whole day!). Then we walked around some shops and we even found a big mall where we went shopping and even found a GAP. But it was a bit pricey here.
After that we went to a movie theatre where we watched an American movie called "The Holiday" that we had found was playing in "version original" (English with French subtitles). We loved being able to see a movie in English, and it was actually a really funny movie too. After that we found a yummy Mexican restaurant (none of those in Chambery yet) and ordered guacamole, tacos and chimichangas. But right then, we realized that our last train back to Chambery was going to leave in thirty minutes and we were quite far from the train station. So, we asked for to go boxes (not common here, but they had them!), and sprinted to the bus and to the station, and made it with about 1 minute to spare. We walked home from the Chambery station in the rain, and then watched the end of a soccer match on TV. It was a nice and relaxing day that we really needed before classes started again! Pictures to come soon!
This week we started our 3 school session. The sessions here go by months. At the beginning of each month, you take a placement test and get placed in the appropriate level. Well, somehow, I was placed in the first level in November, the third level in December, and level six this month. I questioned the jump the first time, and this time I laughed at it. Don't misread, it's not because I've learned so much French and am excelling so far! Anyway, I tried three days of classes and decided this type of challenge (imagine taking French 4 when you only know how to say "Bonjour") is not my learning style. So tomorrow, I will move two levels down and see how that works out for me.
Last weekend, Rob and I took a fun trip to Lyon. It is the second largest city in France (second to Paris, of course), and is only about an hour and a half away from us by train. Rob and I left early in the morning to catch the train, and arrived in Lyon around 10:30am. We visited a beautiful Basilica that was at the highest point in Lyon. It had a panoramic view of the city and beautiful carvings and stained glass windows (sorry, we left our camera at home, so no pics!). We then ate our lunch that we brought from home, by the Rhone river. We walked through a Saturday market and bought some beignets (French donuts, which, contrary to popular belief, are actually not very prevalent at all around here!). Then, the sun came out and warmed us up so much that we even took off our jackets and gloves. We found a little outdoor ice skating rink, and had fun sliding all over the ice. It was nice to not have to think about school or work, or moving or anything for a little while (we even turned off our cell phone the whole day!). Then we walked around some shops and we even found a big mall where we went shopping and even found a GAP. But it was a bit pricey here.
After that we went to a movie theatre where we watched an American movie called "The Holiday" that we had found was playing in "version original" (English with French subtitles). We loved being able to see a movie in English, and it was actually a really funny movie too. After that we found a yummy Mexican restaurant (none of those in Chambery yet) and ordered guacamole, tacos and chimichangas. But right then, we realized that our last train back to Chambery was going to leave in thirty minutes and we were quite far from the train station. So, we asked for to go boxes (not common here, but they had them!), and sprinted to the bus and to the station, and made it with about 1 minute to spare. We walked home from the Chambery station in the rain, and then watched the end of a soccer match on TV. It was a nice and relaxing day that we really needed before classes started again! Pictures to come soon!
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